Don’t hang around people that feed your dysfunction.
For many years I only wanted to connect with people that would be okay with my negative mindset. It felt good to have someone encourage my pessimistic side. I would label my sideways comments and snarky words about people around me as humor. I would joke and say that I was sarcastic and it was just jokes. My behavior was proof of the wall I built to hide my self-rejection and hurt. When you have a negative mindset, the last thing you want is for someone to shine a light on your dark corners. I hadn’t always been like this, my core had always been happy and loving, but with a couple of hard falls on this entrepreneurial journey, my heart had hardened.
Here is the problem with the negative mindset way of living. It creates a breeding ground for mediocrity. You don’t have to worry about growth or stepping into your greatness because there isn’t an encouraging voice in the entourage of self-destructive behavior. You can rest in the comfort of being average and push down the urge to do more. The fear is paralyzing, but as long as your peeps are helping you stay in the valley, it becomes your safe place.
Several years ago I started connecting with mountain moving, high-level thinking, brave speaking people. These extraordinary humans were doing big things in the world, and I loved their passion for life. Although meeting individuals with larger outlook made me uncomfortable, it also made me stretch my positivity muscle. This new way of thinking gave me permission to be who I was meant to be. I was no longer playing a victim I was victorious.
For so many years I was operating on a low vibration because my frequency was low I was attracting what I was putting out. Thankfully it’s never too late to change your thought pattern.
I became obsessed with my spiritual journey and taking steps to own my life; this included complete responsibility of where I was in my life.
I had to get a handle on my daily thoughts, basically, retrain my brain. The crazy thing is that 95% of the people I used to call my friends are nowhere to be found today. I read that in early civilization if you would think and act differently than your tribe you would be punished because it was considered betrayal. I believe this fear is planted deep in all of us. If we dare to be different, our people will turn their backs on us.
I had to limit my exposure to negativity. Anything that induces the feeling of anger, fear, or limiting beliefs I would stay away. I believe social media is one of the number one activities that will lower your frequency and we engage in it daily. Do you ever finish scrolling Facebook or Instagram only to find yourself feeling pretty crappy about your life? Stop the madness!
I learned the importance of an affirmation statement. Did you know that having a strong affirmation creates new neural pathways in your brain? Pretty amazing. Claim your greatness, speak your goals. Remember to give yourself the time needed, don’t claim the long shots because your body and mind will rebel. Your success is in your daily commitment to your craft. Delight in your daily goals and be proud of checking off the list of accomplishments for the week. I try to keep in mind; I am one step closer.
I’m always saying be mindful of who you hang around. Connecting with the right circle of influence can not only affect your success it can also change your personal life. Successful relationships create momentum and momentum can change your life.
