I came across an article, and it was so interesting I had to share my thoughts. It was about safeguarding your marriage. There were several different bullets, but there were two that stood out to me.
The first topic was about wearing your ring proudly.
I’ve heard of and seen a lot of people that take off their ring for different reasons. Matt and I feel strongly about our rings and wearing them, and I thought I’d share the meaning of the wedding ring.
“Take this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity. In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen”
So the ring that is given is a sign of the love and fidelity of the one who gives it. The ring that you wear, that was placed on your finger by your spouse on your wedding day, does not represent your commitment to your marriage, your love for your spouse, your faithfulness to this relationship and to the vocation God has called you into, etc. It represents the commitment, love and faithfulness of your spouse to you. Think about it.
The second topic that stood out was about staying away from tempting situations.
I have a weakness for bread. I stay clear of it for health reasons, but if I go to a restaurant that serves bread to the table, I’m going to be tempted to eat it. This example might be silly, but it’s true. If you don’t place yourself in tempting situations, you can’t be tempted by them. I’ve seen a lot of business trips where the attendees end up at a strip club. Personally, I do not feel this is a good idea; again it goes back to putting yourself in a bad situation. Stay true to your core values.
Matt and I are super careful here. If you’re questioning an activity or wondering if you should or shouldn’t do something ask yourself, would I be okay if he/she was watching me?
In the day of social media, this is a huge sticking point. You can search for anyone, find them, and contact them within a 15 minute period. Transparency is key! A seemingly harmless conversation in Messenger can crack the door for the temptation to squeeze in.
I read another article that said 33% of divorces were linked to some form of social media. Yikes! The attorney’s they surveyed said that Facebook was the number one source of finding evidence of infidelity.
Double Yikes!! It’s not worth it!!
It’s not about control, but it is about respect for your spouse.
“Marriages last because two people make choices: to keep it, to fight for it, and, to work for it.”
